Julie felt mad. No……she felt steaming mad! How many times did she need to have this ‘discussion’ with her boss Mike? You could almost see the steam rising from her head as they threw words back and forth at each other. No matter what she said he just didn’t seem to get it!
It had all started so well, she knew what she wanted to say but it came out all wrong, and then Mike got all defensive and now she felt like she was in the wrong. What had happened? As they went back and forth the words became louder and sharper, it seemed to be a downward spiral. They both were talking but no one was listening! The argument was bad enough but afterwards their working environment that had been so nice now seemed cold and distant.
To make matters worse, she noticed that her kids didn’t seem to care what she said anymore either. Getting them to listen to her was all but impossible – she was at her wits end.
And then a ray of light shone through the dark clouds. Julie heard about ‘Authentic Communication’ and it was like suddenly getting the instruction manual for having successful communication that actually worked. It turned out by really listening to her kids and then helping them solve their own problems they are all happier. What a relief to figure out she didn’t need to take their on their problems after all and they were delighted!
Rather than arguing about some surface distraction she now pauses to figure out what was really troubling her, fully owning that and then honestly talking about it with Mike and it feels like a new lease of life. Plus by doing this Mike now really hears what she needs, and she hears him. It’s like a breath of fresh air on a summer’s day. They have their connection back and it feels wonderful for them both.
Now instead of feeling the distance between her boss and family she feels like they are all moving in harmony and growing together. The sound of yelling at work and in her house has been replaced by laughter, warmth and smiles. By harnessing her authentic and effective communication, life now feels great.
~Authentic Communication is ideal for anyone who is committed to improving
their professional and personal relationships to enjoy life fully~
The next Authentic Communication & Conflict Resolution course starts 6 August. Contact Kelly for further details – 027 5555 907 | www.pureresults.co.nz